Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Wedded Wednesday Advice from Family & Friends

When Mr. A and I tied the knot we had our guests write down a piece of marriage advice or a wish for us as a couple I loved reading them all and here are some of my faves.

Never assume.

Compliment more than you criticize.

Strive to be the spouse who brags instead of complains

Remember that it is ok to do things differently (e.g. there is more than one way to peel a potato or fold the laundry).

Always make time for the two of you.

Marry someone that you enjoy listening and talking to.

Remember that marriage is sometimes a bed of roses and sometimes there are thorns.

Remember that the best gift that you can give your children is to love their mother/father.

Be fair! Split the housework, spending money, etc evenly. This way you are never resentful of your partners contributions (or lack of) or expenditures.

Never go to bed angry. (Unless it's 3a.m. and you're exhausted, angry, and not thinking straight.)

Remember that people do fight. It's how you do it that matters.

Before starting an argument, consider if it's really worth it.

Agree to disagree.

Respect each other's privacy.

Remember that "love is like childhood. You need to learn to share."

Marriage is not 50/50, it's two people giving 100/100 all of the time.

Surprise each other now and then.

Have date night!

Never pass up an opportunity to say "I love you".

Hold hands.

Hug & kiss every day (several times a day actually!).

Always believe that you got better than you deserved.

Be quick to say "I'm sorry".

Choose the one you love, then love the one you choose.

Love isn't always a feeling, it's a decision.

Hang in there. It's worth it.

Play nice, play often, love much.

Never air your dirty laundry as a couple in public.

Never keep secrets from each other.

Be each other's champion. No matter what, take your husband or wife's side first!

Communication is the key!

Always respect each other.

Never underestimate the power of a good belly-laugh and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.

It's the little things that matter most.

Never use the words 'Always' and 'Never' in a fight.

It's ok to argue, but never use curse words to express your anger.

Never compare your marriage to others. What you see on the outside is not always what it is on the inside.

Did everyone else get lots of marriage advice or if you're not married do you hope you get a lot of marriage advice?


mrs.leah.maria said...

WOW. Those are awesome. I always blank and say something silly, but honestly those are gold!

Lauren said... those little tidbits! Thanks for sharing!

P.s. love the picture in your header!

Katie said...

I love these! We did the same thing, and looking back on them--the advice is priceless!

Jax said...

This is an excellent post. I really love the "Love isnt a feeling; it's a decision." That's very well said.

Mrs.LifeAccounts said...

I think my favorite is "Strive to be the spouse who brags instead of complains" definitely something that has always been important to me, I never want to be that wife, that is always complaining and putting down her husband!

Llama said...

Im not married yet but i hope to get wonderful advice just like this! I love the one that says that the best gift that you can give your children is to love one another....:)

Kelsey @ Seattle Smith's said...

My dear friend did this and I thought it was such a great idea. I wrote on hers, "never have a TV in the bedroom, that is only for marital relations!!!" haha. My husband has felt this since the day I met him!

Love your bits of advice too! The one about not saying "always and never" .... I have to agree on that one and often do it. Ooop!

I found your blog through Jax and now following :)

Swapna Raghu Sanand said...

Awesome tips! I wish I had that idea before I got married! It would have come in so handy:)

Mrs. J said...

The chaplain we saw for our pre-marital counseling gave us some wise advice - never use the word "divorce," no matter how mad you are. Once it is said, it instantly becomes an option and it's an option never to be taken lightly. The other piece of advice that I have learned through being married is, it doesn't matter who is in the wrong and who is in the right, in the end, we have to work together to fix problems. And one more - never be afraid to say "I'm wrong." Sometimes, that's all you need to get past the problem and reach the solution.

CJ said...

Wow, all great tips. Thanks for sharing!